Who, me?

As Jerry Seinfeld once put it, “People! They’re the worst.”

If people were just more reasonable, smarter, more understanding, more attentive to my obviously correct view of the world and my perfectly reasonable needs, we’d all get along just fine.

Sound good so far?

One of the great challenges in dealing with frustrations with other people is not to help them see your perspective. Rather, the great challenge is for you to explore and fully understand what challenge you are creating for them.

Try these questions:

• How am I contributing to this problem?
• What do I do that most frustrates you?
• (And an old standby) What’s more important here, building this relationship or being right?

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